ahhh…Sweet release. Cannabis and sex.

Cannabis is a portal to pleasure for Mavens. If you haven’t incorporated it into your pleasure practice yet, either solo or with a partner, here is your invitation. 

And here is why.

Instead of speaking in generalities, I’ll just tell my story – maybe you’ll find pieces that look familiar. Maybe not. Either way, I’m glad you’re here.

I deal with anxiety. So they put me on X. It helped. There’s no shame in the med game – let me be clear. Sometimes, it is just absolutely necessary and the BEST course of action.

But here was my mistake – I didn’t take ownership of the meds, the dosage, and the timeline. I stayed on them too long. And the anti-anxiety/anti-depressants did help me not feel sad. But I also wasn’t really feeling ANYTHING. Not really…it felt like everything was sort of muted. It muted the anxiety but it also muted the JOY. And – it absolutely KILLED my sex drive. But honestly, with the busyness of two kids, moves, and new businesses – I barely noticed. 

Then I decided I had enough – I was MISSING something from my life. I was tired of the constant side effects of the X, feeling groggy, feeling numb. I talked to my doctor, weaned off of the med, and took out my IUD (OW – by the way, holy crap, but that’s another post) and I went through the hormone crash, and then I was in 4D. Holy shit. What a freaking difference. This version of myself fucking cracked open. The desire for sex, for pleasure – it was still there. Not only was it there it was demanding attention and pissed that I had ignored her for so long. 

I learned about cannabis and which strains and ways of consumption worked for me to manage my anxiety – and then I discovered orgasms after consuming cannabis and it was a freaking awakening. 

Sex and pleasure – when you can sit back in it, and honor your body and leave your mind behind…ooooeeee! And cannabis helps me do that. It gets me out of my head and into my body and if you’ve never orgasmed just as your high was cresting – Queen – you are denying yourself some really fucking good sex, solo or otherwise.  

As I come out of this fog, that season of my life when I gave away all the parts of myself to my kids, my partner, supporting  dreams that were not my own – I am responsible for my own happiness. Not relying on anyone else to do that for me has been a game changer.  A huge part of that is taking control of my own pleasure. There has been so much unlearning – about societal conventions, about what is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ or acceptable to feel or want as a woman. And then so much to learn. About myself. About what I want and what I desire. There are a lot of different ways that I am doing this and cannabis is one tool in that toolbox helping me become empowered in this critical and important area of my life. Our sexuality our pleasure, and our connection to our own bodies is core to who we are, and how we step into the world every day. Cannabis has helped me out of my head where live the judgements, the past shame, and led me right into my body where she knows exactly what she wants, and revels in all of her erotic freakiness. 

Our pleasure is not shameful, and seeking it out and honoring it is not selfish. 

So Release the guilt. Release the shame. Release the critical voice in your head. Release the toxic voice of purity culture. Release the patriarchy. Release the bullshit. 

You are a goddess, Maven. And pleasure is a divine right. Own it. Revel in its sweetness. What can you Release to make room for pleasure? She’s right there waiting for you, so let her in.